First, I want to take a minute to apologize for being completely silent last week. I was out of town for my friend's graduation (fun blog on that soon!!), and then got home to promptly get SUPER sick..... and pass my sickness along to Nick. It has been an interesting week and a half at the Zuiker house, but we made it.
Anyway, lets get down to the good stuff. So, you've thoughtfully targeted people who you would like to invite to your table, you've used your 20 seconds of insane courage to actually invite them, you've made your house into a loving and welcoming home, you've carefully planned out your dinner for the evening, but now what? If you are like me, as the time for new guests to flood my house draws nearer, my worries grow stronger and stronger. I begin to remember that I know absolutely nothing about these people. I think things like, "What the heck am I supposed to say to these people? What if I run out of things to say or do with them and it gets awkward? What if I'm just awkward in general?" Guess what guys, all of those thoughts are just Satan trying to mess with my ministry and my witness, and I need to first and foremost pray against those thoughts-- to speak the Lord's name against those, and second, I need to equip myself in the best ways possible to rise above those fears becoming a reality.
Maybe you aren't like me, maybe you don't think those thoughts, but if you do, I want to encourage you to PRAY!! Pray that God would take those doubtful thoughts and anxious fears away from you and that he would bless your efforts. Next, USE THE LISTS BELOW!!!! I have created a list of talking points. These talking points flow in an order that has worked for Nick and me in the past and is pretty fun actually. I really hope these are helpful to you!
1. If you do not already know, find out basic information about the new people sitting at your table. Basic information could consist of these kinds of things:
- Where do you work?
- What do you like to do for fun?
- What is your favorite food?
- Do you have any siblings?
- Do you have any pets, if so what kind?
2. After you feel like you have asked enough basic questions, you can move onto more "out of the box" questions as I like to call them. These questions still aren't extremely deep, but they can tell you a lot about a person and can help you learn fun things about them! The goal here is to not go too deep. Sometimes people get very freaked out if you try to ask about their deepest, darkest secrets the first time you really ever talk to them....awk.
- Where is the coolest place you've ever traveled?
- Want is your biggest pet peeve?
- If you had one whole day to yourself, totally yours with zero responsibilities for the day, how would you spend it?
- How do you like to relax and recharge?
- If you could eliminate one food from the world forever, what would it be?
- Who is your celebrity crush? (THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. OBVIOUSLY!)
- What do you think is the weirdest thing about you?
- What is the weirdest thing you've ever eaten?
*** When asking these questions, or even the basic information questions, be looking for a fun detail you can incorproate the next time you hangout. For example, if they say they really like hockey, ask them if they want to come over for dinner and to watch the playoff hockey game next week. If they say their favorite food is Sour Patch Kids, next time they come over serve up a Sour Patch Kid appetizer or dessert.***
3. Now, to wrap up the night, ask some hilarious, completely off the wall questions. When you do this, the last thing your guests remember from the night will be all the fun you had. Laughing is such a good thing because laughing releases endorphins which directly tells your brain that you are happy. When people are happy they will want to come again.
- If you had to pick one current hit song to play continuously in the background of your life, what would it be?
- If you could commit any crime and get away with it, what would it be?
- What do you think is Victoria's secret?
- If you had to be trapped in a TV show for a month, which would you choose?
- If you had to wear the underwear of someone famous, whose would you wear?
- If you had to be someone's body part, what would you be and on whose body?
- If you could choose an imaginary friend, who would you choose and why?
- What slogan best describes your life and why?
- What is the color of your toothbrush, and does that color have deep meaning to you?
- What would you do on Mars for fun?
- Describe the perfect kiss.... in detail.
- What is your favorite joke?
- What is your biggest legal addiction? (Obviously if you know someone has a substance abuse problem or something of that sort, don't ask this question. This question is supposed to come with a funny answer like Netflix or Chick-fil-a or something like that)